Have you ever noticed that when you start something new or introduce something different, it feels like everyone and everything is against you?
This has happened more times than I could count. One instance that really stood out was when I shared something about parenting in the online community. It was a concept that was raised by an author and it was something that changed me (for the better).
However, after I shared it, the comments started to flood in as well as comments from other social media outlets. What started out as an introduction to a healthy discussion, ended in something so negative, I had to walk away from the discussion.
After processing the situation, I have learned:
1. People will feel threatened when you do something different from them.
Once you decide that you no longer want to go with the flow of things, and really branch out to try something different, there will be people who will try to bring you back to your old ways.
I found that those who do these things are not really trying to hurt us, they are just trying to understand themselves in the big picture.
Just by you doing something different, it makes them question their values and decisions.
Instead of facing those feelings and thoughts head-on, it’s much easier to lash out and tear down the person who is headed towards change.
Cases like these, you need to have a good support system and understanding that those who do these things are doing it because they have things they need to work out for themselves.
2. “See that no one pays back wrong for wrong, but at all times make it your aim to do good to one another and to all people.” 1 Thessalonians 5:15
Believe me, it is so easy to lash back at those people who are trying to tear you down, but it’s not worth it, because every word that you say, and every deed that you do, hangs over your own head.
We have our own paths to walk in this life, and we use our own shoes. Just because someone is being nasty to you, you can make the choice to not return that nastiness.
3. Great changes in this world was made by someone going against the norm.
All of the positive changes that we have seen in our history, were changes that were introduced by people who went against the norm.
They introduced concepts that changed our lives forever, and for the better. Could you imagine what this world would be like if great leaders like Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. backed down at the naysayers?
People scoff at the ones that talk about love and respect. But if this is who you are, never walk away from who you are because of a few people who don’t agree with you.
4. Don’t expect everyone to just get it right away, it’s going to take time for some to get there.
Eventually people catch on and catch up to the changes around them, but they needed time to digest it.
If they finally understand it, they may end up being your biggest supporter. That is why it is always important to be respectful to everyone we come across.
It is our reaction to situations likes these that will truly test our values. However, what ever we choose to do, we must remind ourselves that we are not alone on our paths and our journey.
God is with us every step of the way, so even when it seems like the world is turning their backs, we know that the Lord walks with us, hand in hand.
He already showed us how to react and behave when people are against us, and we know that we don’t return hate for hate, we return love.
In everything that we do, we make sure we do it with love.