Effective Ways To Manage Stress and Regain Control Of Your Life

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There is no easy way to say this but stress is recognized as the number one proxy killer disease of today, this according to the American Medical Association (AMC).

The AMC also noted that there is a direct correlation between stress and the more than 60% of all human illnesses and diseases, with stress being the leading cause them and even some deaths.

Now I am certain you may have heard persons say things like, “I am feeling really stressed right now,” “I am so overwhelmed,” “My work is very stressful“Blogging is stressful,” and worst of them all, “Stress is killing me.”

Fact#1Your body doesn’t care if it’s a big or little stress

Stress buster: Faith is a necessary virtue when you are going through stressful situations. It may not stop the injury from taking place but it hastens your recovery.

Stress, Is It a Reality of Life or Not?

You know what, in all instances where persons have made the above statements, they actually told you the truth, but because we hear the phrases so often, and even say them ourselves, we tend to treat it as ‘normal’ and that it comes with the territory or the package.

Again you are right in thinking of it as ‘normal’ because throughout the course of life, stress will be unavoidable and we will be exposed to it to some degree, simply because it is a common denominator to every occupation. I am sure as bloggers, G+ers, tweeters, social media gurus and business owners (online or offline), we can readily relate to this.

We are constantly keeping up with technology which is moving at a much faster pace than it ever has. Many have more accounts than is possible to manage. Some are up late into the night and up again in the wee hours of the morning. Many persons clearly want to keep up with the Jones’. There is no doubt in my mind then being plugged in all the time is a major source of driving up ones’ stress level.

Studies have found also that users, who are actively involved in social media, are in fact 14% more likely than non-users to describe their lives as somewhat stressful. On the other hand, non-users of social media are 28% more likely than users to say their lives are not at all stressful.

Fact#2 – After a while people become numb to their stress

Stress buster: Set aside at least 5 – 10 minutes at the end of each day to unwind and remember it is in quietness and confidence you will find your strength again. Also plan for something rewarding

One of the leading pioneers in stress research Hans Selye said, “Stress is not something necessarily bad – it all depends on how you take it. The stress of exhilarating, creative successful work is beneficial, while that of failure, humiliation or infection is detrimental.”

But understanding the difference between ‘healthy normal stress’ and ‘unhealthy stress’ and even the basic mechanics of them both, gives you the advantage of being more aware of, and sensitive to your own level of stress and knowing when and how to take proactive steps.

You can also appreciate that the increased awareness will place you at a greater advantage to take better care of yourself, your family members and even your co-workers.

Sleep deprivation soars among college student. As much as 15% college student admit to falling asleep in class. Here a teacher waking up a dozed off student.

Sleep deprivation soars among college students. As much as 15% have admitted to falling asleep in class. Here a teacher is waking up a dozed off student. (Photo:

What is Stress?

In general, when we talk about stress, we understand it to mean everything that has become too much of a burden upon us. We feel overwhelmed and ill-prepared and it is then perception becomes a prevailing factor and we see demand as far more exceeding the personal and social resources than we are equipped with. We wonder if we can cope with the added pressures.

Additional research have given a more clearer definition of stress as

  • a state of mental tension and worry caused by problems in your life, work etc.
  • something that causes a strong feeling of worry or anxiety
  • a physical, chemical or emotional factor that causes bodily or mental tension and may be a factor in disease causation

Fact#3 – Stress can make smart people do stupid things

Stress buster: “I promise you that nothing is as chaotic as it seems. Nothing is worth your health. Nothing is worth poisoning yourself into stress, anxiety, and fear.” ~ Steve Maraboli

Causes of Stress

No two persons are alike which is also true of how we will each react to stressful situations. Researches have shown these to be common causes of stress:

  • Chemical – a result of drugs and pollutants
  • Emotional – anger, fear, guilt, bereavement and loneliness
  • Mental – anxiety, long work hours, lack of time, media overload, worry
  • Nutritional – allergies, vitamin and mineral deficiencies
  • Physical – exertion, illness, lack of sleep, travel, overcrowding
  • Psycho-spiritual – financial, career pressure, relationships including divorce, spiritual alignment
  • Traumatic –  childhood traumatic grief, injuries, post-traumatic stress disorder, abortion, miscarriage, death of a family member, terrorism and fear of crime

Fact#4 – You can control how you respond to stress

Stress buster: Every man within himself or herself has the power to choose. It is not so much what the stress is about; rather it is your attitude in your response to dealing with it. Focus on the positive”

The Detrimental Effects of Stress

In this infographic, you will find some very insightful information on how stress affects the entire body of which many people are still unaware of. You will realize that no part of the body is left untouched.


Effective Ways to Manage Stress 

Based on research, it is the general consensus that the best way to manage stress is to deal with it the moment that you feel it coming on. Do not put it off until a time when the body would have already activated its stress response.

Seek to create inner balance in your body and realize that positive emotions will create coherent heart rhythms, while on the contrary, negative emotions create erratic, chaotic patterns in the heart beat.

Here now are some ways to effectively manage stress:

1. Identify the source of your stress – You can do this by noting on paper the things that pushes you to have negative emotions such as anger, fear, etc. Note also the time of day – whether early morning or closer towards the end of the work day. Next categorize your problems, them based on the list of causes given earlier. It’s a good time to remove the source and seek to find a balance.

2. Check and re-check your to-do list – You are neither superman nor super woman. Simplify your life, trim the fat off that list and remove things that do not add value or is not directly linked to the outcome of your goals. Delegate responsibility to others where possible.

3. Set your house in order – By that I mean you must prioritize. Everything cannot be done all at once. Stop multitasking – it gives a false sense that you are making progress when in reality you are not. Assign each task or project a number and start working on them in order of the one that is most life threatening and so on, so forth.

4. Laugh, laugh and laugh – Why laugh so much? Laughter is a good medicine, and humor can heal a soul that is wounded and stressed. It causes your body to release endorphins that quickly improve your mood.ID-100260535

5. Develop strategies that enable you to think positively – Being optimistic will enable you to cope much better under stressful conditions. This also include surrounding yourself with positive thinkers, and people who will encourage you to stick with your goals in life.

6. Avoid negative people – They demand a lot of your energy. Avoiding them is one way of removing stress and getting rid of toxins and lowering stress causing hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline.

7. Embrace spirituality – spirituality is a sure and effective way of filling your life with inner peace and tranquility, while it gives you a clearer sense of your purpose. It helps you to regulate your pace and gives you a more positive outlook on life

8. Visit your church – Church is a good place to go. Hearing the word of God brings life and light into your soul and spirit and to gain natural healing in your body. You can also foster and build long lasting relationships with other believers.

9. Take time out to unplug and re-energize yourself – Social media has its advantages as it helps you build relationships and friendships but it is not worth dying for.

10. Have more sex with your partner  – NoI am not promoting casual sex with just any and any person. But increased amounts of sex with your spouse/partner relieves stress and depression. Not only that, it relaxes the nervous, respiratory and circulatory system. Based on a study conducted by Roy J. Levin of the University of Sheffield, England, he reports that hormones in semen contains substances that have been found to relax women. Hence, the reason a woman feels in a far better mood once the man ejaculates inside of her.

11. Lower your expectations – Give yourself permission to lower your standard of expectation of always getting a perfect score for everything you do. Very quickly, you will rid yourself of the perfectionist in your head that’s been refusing to get a less-than a perfect 10 score.

12. Turn off the light and sleep – Your body functions at an optimal level when you get the required number of hours sleep. The fewer hours of sleep your body get, the more of the stress hormone cortisol it produces

13. Avoid chemical stimulants and sugar – The more stressed you get the more of these (coffee, coke, sweet muffins, doughnuts) your body will crave but the catch is – the more your body crave them, the more stressed you become.

Here is a post written by Harleena Singh that gives a lot of insights. It’s titled Easy Ways To Relieve Stress That You Should Adopt

14. Set aside time for family bonding – You need people who love, support and care for you in emotional and stressful times and when times are tough. Sharing what you are going through is a way of releasing stress.

Over to you, speak your mind

What are some other ways to manage stress that you would love added to this list? What are your thoughts on social media and its relationship to stress? Do you really thing that they are linked? How do you manage stress in the workplace? Let’s hear your thoughts in the comment form below…


Additional resources:

  • Coping with stress [VIDEO]
  • www[dot]heartmath[dot]com
  • www[dot]medicalnewstoday[dot]com/articles/145855.php
About Yvonne I. Wilson (793 Articles)
Yvonne I. Wilson is known for her prolific, dynamic leadership style with over twenty years in the healthcare industry. She is a trailblazer and a catalyst for change; a positive thinker and someone who is very passionate and optimistic about life. She is mantled as an end-time Apostolic Prophet with an extraordinary spirit of discernment, an exceptionally strong prophetic and healing anointing and a unique gift in prophetic intercessory prayer as she navigates through the realm of the spirit and as she ministers to the nations. With the Agape love of God and His undeniable purpose for which He has called her, God has given her a Prophetic Deliverance Ministry to bring deliverance to His people, to heal the wounded, rejected and emotionally scarred/broken in spirit, to break barriers, old paradigms and false teachings and to rebuild, establish and plant the things of God.

14 Comments on Effective Ways To Manage Stress and Regain Control Of Your Life

  1. Hi Ma’am Yvonne,
    Wow! Nice article, I never used to laugh alot, but now I’ll take advantage of that, (hahahahaha) I’m laughing here 🙂 . Coupled with the other factors to reduce stress I think one would surely be stress free.

    I’m surely gonna share this, my friends need to glance through this.. 🙂

    Thanks for sharing

    • Hi Larry,

      I am happy that the spirit of laughter was induced as a result of reading this post. 🙂 I was like that once ago too, not laughing much and even thought that people who were constantly laughing was just putting on a show. But then I found out that was not the case and laughter is a very good medicine that work wonders in your soul and spirit. Very helpful strategy. 🙂 Have a great weekend! Cheers!

  2. Hello Yvonne!
    Fantastic post! I thoroughly enjoyed reading it and 100% agree with everything that you had to say. You are right that after a while stress becomes systemic and we seem to think that it is the default state. But the truth is that our state is not one of stress but one of bliss and peace. In the past, when humans had all kinds of dangers to contend with, having a fight or flight response and high adrenaline and other stress hormones was justified for that moment. But several studies have repeatedly shown that a continuous stress response and fight and flight response seriously compromises the body similar to what your post showed.

    It seems that society has also a habit of glorifying stress and thinking that stressed out people accomplish more. How far from the truth this really is, is it not? Society needs to promote the idea that happy, calm and peaceful people can be great achievers too. You have mentioned some great action tips to get beyond stress! I love all the tips. I just wanted to add that there are laughter yoga clubs around the world that facilitate organized laughter!! 🙂 Laughter yoga was invented by Dr. Madan Kataria of Mumbai, India. Dr. Kataria, a physician realized that stress was causing a lot of problems and created a set of laughter yoga exercises!

    Thanks for a great post,

    • Hi Harish,

      Excellent contribution! You have taken the discussion to another level pointing out some things I had not thought of and I am also learning about laughter yoga and laughter yoga clubs – that’s all new to me.

      I am so glad you emphasized the point that being stress out is not equal to or indicate that the person is accomplishing more. That says a lot, primarily, poor planning or rather a lack of planning on his/her side of things. Eventually, that person goes into a brown out before they burn out completely.

      There are so many dynamics that come into play when stress takes a toll on a person’s body. Not only does it affect the body, but relationships, productivity level plummet and then that person is no longer in the right frame of mind to think or even speak rationally. Being in a constant state of stress and fright to flight state is indicative of another underlying problem that I would recommend the person getting help for.

      Thanks for your valuable input and do have a great day/weekend. 🙂

  3. ferdiklint // October 24, 2014 at 6:33 pm //

    Hello Madam Yvonne,

    That was an awesome one. I like all the stress managing strategies being stated here, most especiall the points of keeping away from negative people, embracing spirituality and visiting the church.

    This is worth sharing, i will just share this one and practice the points revealed.

    Thanks for sharing this with us

    • Hi ferdiklint

      Thanks for your feedback on this post. Glad to know that it was beneficial to you and I do appreciate you sharing it. Negative people drain your energy for sure but embracing spirituality and visiting church will definitely boost it. Have a great weekend! 🙂

  4. I believe the statistics about stress. It comes from so many different sources and impacts a lot. I know people who’ve developed intense anxiety because of stress.

    Laughter is definitely my favorite coping method. I always try to make light of a situation so I can better deal with it. It helps relax me a little so I can better focus on a solution.


    • Hi Lea

      Welcome to my blog! I am glad you took the time out to visit and to share your thoughts. While doing the research, I was totally amazed at the volume of information all across the web on the subject of stress. So many tips and suggestions of how to manage it, yet we are still finding where people are getting sick as a result and one of the domino effects being anxiety.

      What’s important is the coping mechanisms, which sad to say some do not handle stress very well and are still clearly at a loss of what to do.

      I love the way you deal with it through laughter. It’s really a great method. I even find things to laugh about my own self just to make light of some situations, even though they are serious. Because just as you have said, when you are done laughing you are more relaxed and better able to focus your attention on the solution.

      Thanks for stopping by. Have a blessed day. Cheers! 🙂

  5. Hi Yvonne

    First I like the stress buster and I love this topic because stress is what we call a silent killer if not handled properly. Like Ravi said people are not aware that they are stressed till they reach a detrimental state but with the points that you have raised, one should be able to effectively handle stress.

    Oh less I forget, I love your infograph and had to pin it. Great post.

    • Hi Ikechi

      Welcome again and thanks for your feedback on this post. So many persons ignore the warning signs of stress even though they are experiencing some of the signs and symptoms listed here. As you rightly said they wait until they have reached a detrimental state to get themselves checked out. It is always better to address the situation right away than to be sorry when it is probably too late. Thanks for pinning and getting the word out.

  6. Hi Yvonne,

    Wow! You just rocked it.

    There are many people who don’t know that they are stressed. Its because they think that the diseases they have are common. The burden of anything which is not bearable to our body tends to stress. You have explained the meaning and effects for stress in a specific way.
    I like an infographic you have added in this article. People should know that their body can be affected a lot by stress. By the activities they do in their daily life.

    Thanks for writing this article.

    Enjoy your day.:)


    • Hi Ravi

      You made a very good observation here by saying ‘there are many people who don’t know that they are stressed.’ I have to agree with you that it is true. Take for example someone having a headache, which from my medical background – is the body way of indicating that something is wrong. Our natural response is to just take Tylenol, lie down or even keep on working. The cycle is repeated without even bothering to do an investigation as to why the pain was there in the first place.

      But therein lies the added danger as stress causes certain toxins or enzymes to be released into the body that is very harmful to cells and body tissues. Over time, illness and disease begin to manifest themselves. So it is very important that we manage the stress level and take care of our body.

      Have a blessed day. 🙂

  7. Hi Yvonne,

    Great stuff. Love this infographic through it I can clearly understand how stress attack on our body and on which part of the body.

    Unfortunately everyone in today’s world has lot of burden and can’t have any much time to destroy it. But, You’ve shared amazing tips to manage stress.

    Thanks for sharing.


    • Hi Mustafa

      I am glad that you love the post and the infographic. Even though I am in the medical field, I myself was alarmed at the devastating effects that stress can really have on our body – I mean it is literally from head to the toes.

      I agree that we can all become so burdened at times, however it is finding the right balance and ensuring that whatever situation we are dealing with is to find time to take better care of our body. The tips are I find helpful too. Have a great day. Another weekend is here upon us, so enjoy as well.

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