As a young child growing up, one of the things that I learned and which remains with me until today is, do not look back! Not only was it bad luck I was told, but clinging to things of the past, especially negative, painful and hurtful things, result in unnecessary weight and baggage that sets you back in life.
So now in my adult life, and through searching the scriptures, I also understand that to adhere to the things of the past, whether bad or good, is to set oneself up to be reckoned as an unspeakable loser, losing not only that which one may have garnered [good things], but losing the most important aspect of one’s life which is Jesus Christ our Lord.
Holding on to the negative [bad things] on the other hand, is likened to cancer that slowly eats away on the inside. It cuts through the core of your heart and soul until it kills you.
What others have said
Make it a rule of life never to regret and never look back. Regret is an appalling waste of energy; you can’t build on it; it’s only for wallowing in. ~ Katherine Mansfield
I consulted an experienced scholar in the person of the Apostle Paul. He knowingly made a choice to quit looking back on his impressive stock and masterful accolades, which in and of themselves was sufficient to make a case for his justification not to have suffered the things like he did, or to lose which he had in those very instances.
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The Apostle spoke of his
- birth right privileges – an Israelite on both sides and from one generation to another, a stock of Israel and yet a tribe of Benjamin.
- He boast of his relations to the covenant – for he was circumcised on the eight-day.
- For learning – a Pharisee and the son of a Pharisee he was (Acts 23:6, Phil 3:5)
- He had a blameless conversation record – teaching the righteousness which is of the law, blameless.
- He had been an active man for his religion – concerning zeal, persecuting the church. (Acts 8:1-3; Phil 3:6)
- Present at Stephen’s stoning (Acts 7:58; 8:1)
- Stoned at Lystra, was supposed to be dead (Acts 14:19-20)
- His imprisonment/s (Acts 16:16-25)
- His arrest in the temple (Acts 21:26-36)
- His shipwrecks on the island of Malta (Acts 27:13 – 28:1)
- The thorn in his flesh and him being constantly buffered by Satan
Yet he says, “Yea doubtless, and I count all things but loss for the excellency of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord….and do count them but dung, that I may win Christ.” (Phil 3:8) The Apostle here proposes himself for an example of trusting in Christ only and not anything else.
He even suggested if any man could boast of their accomplishment, he had even more reason to do so, yet would not for the better which he was awaiting to gain that was far more precious and valuable than anything else he would lose.
Repeating the past prevents you from building on it ~ Dan Rockwell
Why Holding On To Your Past Is Like A Cancer That’s Slowly Killing You
What do you repeatedly do or say? Who are you becoming? These are very important questions that you must begin to ask yourself starting right now.
These are also very popular sayings that we become what we repeatedly do and you keep on doing the same thing you’ve always done and you will keep on getting the same results you have always gotten.
1. The past is likened to ‘dung!’
3. You are taken hostage and you become a prisoner to your past
There is no freedom when you are imprisoned and your space is very limited! Just imagine waking up each day and the real person on the inside of you is held in captivity not able to smile, laugh, to explore life or to even explore who he/she is and is capable of becoming. This person is blinded by darkness and lives in obscurity with little or no light being able to penetrate the soul. Light is life. Light is love.
4. Blaming others for everything and not taking responsibility for anything
Holding to the past in many instances where it is really negative, is playing the blame game over and over again – blaming everyone else rather than taking ownership and responsibility for the role that you played in your situation being the way that it is.
5. Being hard and mean to yourself
Being mean to yourself is not just about holding on to negative emotions, it also engaging in behaviors that are harmful and dangerous to your emotional and physical health. It produces toxins in the body that brings about actual sickness and diseases. There is also a negative spin off into relationships that can be hurtful to others around you.
God wants the best for you
“Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things, which are before. I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 3:13-14)
Paul’s resume’ was impressive indeed! But he tells us what it was that he reached after: it was the knowledge of Christ Jesus, not an experimental acquaintance but a believing experiential relationship with Christ as his Lord. It was not a speculative but a practical knowledge of Him.
He quit his privileges as a Jew and a Pharisee by not looking back on them as anything that would add value to his present or future life but would allow his expression to rise with a holy triumph that Christ is all, in all and above all that anyone would ever need.
Let us therefore quit looking back and press our way forward for the prize that awaits us in Christ. Forgive yourself! Forgive others! Indeed, your future awaits you!