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Warning! Holding On To The Past ,The One Thing Slowly Killing You

As a young child growing up, one of the things that I learned and which remains with me until today is, do not look back! Not only was it bad luck I was told, but clinging to things of the past, especially negative, painful and hurtful things, result in unnecessary weight and baggage that sets you back in life.

So now in my adult life, and through searching the scriptures, I also understand that to adhere to the things of the past, whether bad or good, is to set oneself up to be reckoned as an unspeakable loser, losing not only that which one may have garnered [good things], but losing the most important aspect of one’s life which is Jesus Christ our Lord.

Holding on to the negative [bad things] on the other hand, is likened to cancer that slowly eats away on the inside. It cuts through the core of your heart and soul until it kills you.

What others have said

Make it a rule of life never to regret and never look back. Regret is an appalling waste of energy; you can’t build on it; it’s only for wallowing in. ~ Katherine Mansfield

I consulted an experienced scholar in the person of the Apostle Paul. He knowingly made a choice to quit looking back on his impressive stock and masterful accolades, which in and of themselves was sufficient to make a case for his justification not to have suffered the things like he did, or to lose which he had in those very instances.

Must read: Out With The Sticky Residues Of Your Past

The Apostle spoke of his

  1. birth right privileges – an Israelite on both sides and from one generation to another, a stock of Israel and yet a tribe of Benjamin.
  2. He boast of his relations to the covenant – for he was circumcised on the eight-day.
  3. For learning – a Pharisee and the son of a Pharisee he was (Acts 23:6, Phil 3:5)
  4. He had a blameless conversation record – teaching the righteousness which is of the law, blameless.
  5. He had been an active man for his religion – concerning zeal, persecuting the church. (Acts 8:1-3; Phil 3:6)
  6. Present at Stephen’s stoning (Acts 7:58; 8:1)
  7. Stoned at Lystra, was supposed to be dead (Acts 14:19-20)
  8. His imprisonment/s (Acts 16:16-25)
  9. His arrest in the temple (Acts 21:26-36)
  10. His shipwrecks on the island of Malta (Acts 27:13 – 28:1)
  11. The thorn in his flesh and him being constantly buffered by Satan

christian man 640x390Yet he says, “Yea doubtless, and I count all things but loss for the excellency of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord….and do count them but dung, that I may win Christ.” (Phil 3:8) The Apostle here proposes himself for an example of trusting in Christ only and not anything else.

He even suggested if any man could boast of their accomplishment, he had even more reason to do so, yet would not for the better which he was awaiting to gain that was far more precious and valuable than anything else he would lose.

Repeating the past prevents you from building on it ~ Dan Rockwell

Why Holding On To Your Past Is Like A Cancer That’s Slowly Killing You

What do you repeatedly do or say? Who are you becoming? These are very important questions that you must begin to ask yourself starting right now.

These are also very popular sayings that we become what we repeatedly do and you keep on doing the same thing you’ve always done and you will keep on getting the same results you have always gotten.

1.  The past is likened to ‘dung!’

Imagine holding filth or dung in your heart and mind for however many years, whether through un-forgiveness, pain, disappointment, and break-up in your relationship [name more here….] These are the cancer causing agents that are slowly eating away at the core of your being. Your healing begins when you let them go and you begin to apply to the word of God for healing of your soul.
2.  Holding on to the past prevents you from realizing your future hopes and dreams 
Constantly harping on the past failures does nothing more than set up road blocks and hindrances to door of opportunity for success that is waiting to open up in your life. You hold on to past success is inertia in itself because it not only prevents you from building on it, but it blinds your vision to the future plans and possibilities that you are mostly capable of.

3.  You are taken hostage and you become a prisoner to your past

There is no freedom when you are imprisoned and your space is very limited! Just imagine waking up each day and the real person on the inside of you is held in captivity not able to smile, laugh, to explore life or to even explore who he/she is and is capable of becoming. This person is blinded by darkness and lives in obscurity with little or no light being able to penetrate the soul. Light is life. Light is love.

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4.  Blaming others for everything and not taking responsibility for anything

Holding to the past in many instances where it is really negative, is playing the blame game over and over again – blaming everyone else rather than taking ownership and responsibility for the role that you played in your situation being the way that it is.

5.  Being hard and mean to yourself

Being mean to yourself is not just about holding on to negative emotions, it also engaging in behaviors that are harmful and dangerous to your emotional and physical health. It produces toxins in the body that brings about actual sickness and diseases. There is also a negative spin off into relationships that can be hurtful to others around you.

God wants the best for you

“Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things, which are before. I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 3:13-14)

Paul’s resume’ was impressive indeed! But he tells us what it was that he reached after: it was the knowledge of Christ Jesus, not an experimental acquaintance but a believing experiential relationship with Christ as his Lord. It was not a speculative but a practical knowledge of Him.

He quit his privileges as a Jew and a Pharisee by not looking back on them as anything that would add value to his present or future life but would allow his expression to rise with a holy triumph that Christ is all, in all and above all that anyone would ever need.

Let us therefore quit looking back and press our way forward for the prize that awaits us in Christ. Forgive yourself! Forgive others! Indeed, your future awaits you!

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About Yvonne I. Wilson (774 Articles)
Yvonne is a positive thinker, a catalyst for change, and a conduit through which holistic healing takes place and destiny is fulfilled. Her ministry through her blog, Empowerment Moments, came at a very low point in her life and was born out of much adversity, persecution, physical abuses, and rejection to the point of her being suicidal. She was left feeling defeated and shrunk back by fear. But through some miraculous means, God has given her pain purpose and a unique voice through which He speaks to touch the untouchable, to reach the unreachable and to empower, inspire, motivate, encourage and uplift the hurting and spiritually wounded to bring about healing and wholeness - mind, body, soul and spirit, one person at a time.

6 Comments on Warning! Holding On To The Past ,The One Thing Slowly Killing You

  1. Hi Yvonne I. Wilson
    Very nice post on an important topic.
    Staying stuck to past means one is running from the present or don’t want to embrace the future. But ultimately he sees the present with same eye of dissatisfaction and disgruntlement.That is why is well advised that forget the day which has passed, enjoy the one that is passing always keep high hopes for the day that is coming.
    Thanks for sharing this wonderful post of direct related our every day life.

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    • Hi Mi Muba
      Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this topic. I think that fear has a lot to do with someone being stuck to the past and therefore cause him/her to run from embracing the future. It’s good that you mention these are situations related to our every day lives as well.

      Having said that, so many of the past experiences have been very painful, and some traumatic. However, with coaxing and much encouragement, the shift usually take place and they can learn to trust again in order to connect and so embrace the present passing day and the future.

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  2. I always enjoy reading your articles. Great insights given on the life of Paul and adding the text where this information can be read in the Bible was a very good idea.

    I agree that we need to learn to let go of past pain, hurts and disappointments in life. These are the things that are destroying our society and us as a people. I would also add that there is a need to learn to resolve conflict in way that do not cause us to walk for years with baggage carrying around on our shoulders or in our heart.

    Unforgiveness is also a big one. I agree forgiving someone might be easier said that done but forgiveness is not so much for the other person as it is for us who must forgive in order to be able to move on. We can easily block our own blessings.

    Thanks for sharing. Blessings for a wonderful weekend.

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    • Hi Janelle

      Glad that you enjoy the posts and find them helpful. Thanks as always for your contribution and for adding value to the discussion by your comment.

      I have heard persons say that they have forgiven someone but they just cannot forget it. But I think when people really understand that forgiveness is not for the perpetrator, but for themselves in order to move, I believe that idea of not forgetting will change as well. Forgiving and forgetting go hand in hand. It’s like erasing everything and starting a clean slate.

      Have a great day/weekend! Cheers! 🙂

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  3. Hi Yvonne,

    Wonderful post indeed 🙂

    I so agree with all that you’ve written. Holding on to the past never really helps. In fact it’s the one thing that really pulls you down and stops you from progressing in life. You are just bound down with thoughts and feelings that have no meaning.

    The only thing that really helps is letting go, and getting past that time gone by. I know it takes time, but if you have a positive mindset, nothing is impossible, isn’t it?

    Thanks for sharing. Have a nice weekend 🙂

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    • Hi Harleena,

      Truth be told, I have come a very long way because of the amount of baggage that I was once carrying from my past…I had so many issues as it related to relationships (intimate and otherwise), abandonment, rejection, anxiety, name it and I was all that negative junk in my soul and spirit. I was a text book case of someone holding on to the past and was dying slowly but surely on the inside. I was a prisoner on death row in my own body.

      But I am immensely grateful to God for how He has healed and delivered me. My freedom came when I made a conscious decision to forgive the many persons who had hurt and wronged me and I took responsibility for the role I played. I even had to forgive myself and that day I looked myself in the mirror and called out my name, I said these words, “Yvonne I forgive you and I release you to live, love and be the person who God has purposed in you to become.” It was the day that my life changed.

      So YES, I will encourage anyone not to hold on to the past, but let it go and be FREE.

      Thanks as always for taking the time out of your busy schedule to stop by and through your comment, add value by your presence and comment to this community. Blessings and more empowerment to you! Have a great weekend. 🙂

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