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Secrets to Bringing Happiness Back Into Your Life

There is no doubt that life can be challenging at times for all of us. Our attitude in relation to the circumstances [whatever they are] can have us thinking either victory or defeat, hope or despair, happiness or sadness, confidence or low self esteem, and faith or fear.

The bottom line, it’s a choice as to what the state of mind is – my choice  and your choice that is! Positive or negative!

And contrary to what some may think, it really has nothing to do with our ethnic background, political affiliation or socioeconomic level.

What can be agreed upon is that our basic need and want are very much the same even if it is that we are faced with harsh circumstances.

Research shows that we all want love, success and hope for a bright future, more money, fulfillment, acceptance and validation but above all we want happiness. True, isn’t it? But how easy is that to achieve?

“Remember happiness doesn’t depend upon who you are or what you have; it depends solely on what you think.” ~ Dale Breckenridge Carnegie

In Pursuit of Happiness

Although our basic need is for happiness, the truth is we often seek for it in the wrong places and even from the wrong people. There is a tendency to look for quick fixes and substitutes that only leave us feeling more unhappy.

Alcoholics and drug addicts think that happiness will come if they take that one last drink or the last sniff. Some go after material things making hefty purchases on gadgets and gigs simply because they believe their need for happiness will be met.

Many of us we build friendship and relationships with certain persons in search of happiness, yet it seems so elusive.

We often think to ourselves could it be achieved through our next goal? We even wonder will more money do it? Will having a new promotion and a new job title settle the matter of finding true happiness?

Will a new boyfriend or girlfriend be the one to bring happiness and make that person feel better about himself or herself?

It’s all in the pursuit of happiness.

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What is happiness?

Wikipedia, defines happiness as a mental or emotional state of well-being characterized by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy.

Carlin Flora in an article on Psychology Today agrees with neuroscientists, behavioral economists and other leading experts that the most useful definition of happiness “is more like satisfied or content than “happy” in its strict bursting-with-glee sense.”

She thinks that it is about living a life that is meaningful, making use of our gifts and our time, engaging life and living it with thought and purpose. She further concluded that maximum result in achieving happiness can come about when we feel part of a community and when we exercise grace in confronting disturbances and crises.

What does the bible say about being happy?

Interestingly, I discovered in my research that the Hebrew word in the Old Testament for happy is esher and in the New Testament the Greek word for it is makarios. The translation for both words are blessed or that person feels happy, is experiencing happiness and specifically is enjoying the bliss of heaven while here on earth.

Beyond that though, the bible continually encourages us to live and be happy regardless of our circumstances. Here is some of what it says:

  1. “Happy are the people whose God is the Lord.” ~ Psalm 144:15; Proverbs 16:20
  2. “Happy are thy men, happy are those thy servants, which stand continually before thee, and that hear thy wisdom.”~ 1 Kings 10:8
  3. “Blessed [happy] are you Israel! Who is like you, a people saved by the Lord? He is your shield and helper and your glorious sword. Your enemies will cower before you, and you will tread on their heights.” ~ Deuteronomy 33:29 NIV
  4. Happy is the man who obeys God and keeps His commands ~ Psalms 128:1; 1 Kings 10:8; 2 Chronicles 9:7
  5. Happy is the one who is corrected by God, so do not despise His discipline. It is proof that you are his son or daughter. ~ Job 5:17 NIV
  6. Happy is he who loves God more than power, money, prestige or the praise of men!

“I perceived that there is nothing better for them than to be joyful and to do good things as long as they live; also that everyone should eat and drink and take pleasure in his toil – this is God’s gift to man.” ~ Ecclesiastes 3: 12-13

More Secrets to Achieving Happiness

Regardless of the circumstances that you are facing right now, happiness is a decision. Life is what it is. Things will happen beyond what you anticipated or it’s out of your control. The road will not always be easy but still it is important to remember our inheritance is to be happy always.  So to bring happiness back into your life, here are a few more secrets

1.) Love yourself

Begin to love yourself like no one else on this earth can or ever will, and that your whole life depends on it. If you don’t love yourself, you cannot expect it from someone else.

It all starts with knowing and appreciating the depth of God’s love and then loving Him with your whole heart. Taking this first step helps you to love and accept who you are and be proud of everything that you do, even your mistakes.

Loving yourself will keep you from lowering your standards to that of others just to please them. It helps you to remain optimistic and it makes you feel good about life in general.happiness-quote

2.) Know your worth

I recently read an InstaQuote that said, “when you learn how much you are worth, you will stop giving people hand outs.” We hear this all the time too that so and so is worth millions of dollars. But the truth is a man’s life or his worth, even if he is wealthy isn’t determined by his possessions. (Luke 12:15)

It’s based on a relationship with God and whether or not you are living the way in which He has established or is obeying His commands.

3.) Live on purpose

When you know your purpose in life and is fulfilling it, you are among the happiest people here on earth. It means you have a willing heart, mind and spirit to learn, to stretch and grow from your experiences even when it involves discomfort. It also means that you are acting on life, not just taking it in.

4.) Become filled with hope + [Hope Song video here]

There will be times in life that the future looks bleak but the hope that we must have and should all desire is not something that can be had in the world and things of this world. No doubt it will be offered through things and people but they never quite keep their promise.

We must live in hope knowing that the greatest hope in the life of the faith believer is that of eternal life. God has great plans for us to give us a lavish future and hope for good and not evil.

“A lesson for all of us is that for every loss, there is victory, for every sadness there is joy, and when you think you’ve lost everything, there is hope.” ~ Geraldine Solan

5.) Live according to your values

It does not matter how much you have achieved in life thus far, if you are not living according to your values, you will not be happy.

True that some do not have values or even know what they are and so if you are one who do not, start thinking about what core principles or standards of behavior and your judgement of what is to you important in life.  Steve Pavlina compiled a list of over 400 values on his blog that you can read about here. Once you understand what your personal values are, they will help you to live an authentic, happy life.

6) Know your coping style and embrace it

Two people with identical circumstances can end up dealing with it in vastly different ways and have totally different levels of happiness. It is also true that not everyone can put on a happy face when they are experiencing troubling or annoying circumstances.

The way that we handle our emotions will differ from person to person and to think that it is even possible to accept the one-size fits all approach is something that is misleading or misguided.

It is therefore important for each one to learn his or her natural coping style and furthermore, to embrace it.

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Was this post helpful? Do you agree that happiness is a decision? Do you believe that happiness is relative to trust? What are some of your best kept secrets to happiness? Share your thoughts in the comment form below.

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About Yvonne I. Wilson (763 Articles)
Yvonne is a positive thinker, a catalyst for change, and a conduit through which holistic healing takes place and destiny is fulfilled. Her ministry through her blog, Empowerment Moments, came at a very low point in her life and was born out of much adversity, persecution, physical abuses, and rejection to the point of her being suicidal. She was left feeling defeated and shrunk back by fear. But through some miraculous means, God has given her pain purpose and a unique voice through which He speaks to touch the untouchable, to reach the unreachable and to empower, inspire, motivate, encourage and uplift the hurting and spiritually wounded to bring about healing and wholeness - mind, body, soul and spirit, one person at a time.

27 Comments on Secrets to Bringing Happiness Back Into Your Life

  1. Hello Madam Yvonne,

    When people like you talk, there is nothing more left to say other than to be grateful and thank God for people like you online.

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  2. Hi Yvonne,

    We all want to remain happy. People try to do things for their happiness.
    Leaving stress away is the best thing to do. Happiness is sometime you don’t do activities which bother you a lot. You enjoy your life according to your own.
    This article will help many people.
    Thanks for sharing.:)
    ~Ravi

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    • Hi Ravi

      Absolutely, we all want to remain happy! I am certain we can all agree also that we perform our best when we’re at the peak of happiness. It is even better when we can keep stress or stressful things out of our lives. Then we live at our best.

      Thanks for stopping by. Have a great weekend.

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  3. Hi Yvonne,

    This is a Really Awesome and Superb Post That was a pretty helpful post, happiness is the first step. And I should say the greatest success of life is living a happy life. Great Work , Thanks for sharing me Keep it up ,

    Regard
    Jassica

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    • Hi Jassica

      It’s good to have you back and I certainly appreciate such beautiful comment. Glad to know that you found the post helpful and by that same token that you were inspired by it. I love the way that you have tied success into happiness. Very true that living a happy life is the greatest success.

      Thanks for your participation. Have a wonderful weekend.

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  4. Hi Yvonne

    A very happiness-bringing post. After reading this post I am so confident of bringing all that happiness back to my life which I could not have gotten due to various reasons.

    If a post brings hope in your life I think it is one of the amazing achievements of the writer of the post who succeeded to connect his readers with optimism.

    All the six tips you mentioned are quite helpful and have the power to make you stay happy and spend the life like a winner.

    I once read somewhere staying positive empowers one to achieve his life’s goals with more vigor and enjoy the taste of success for a longer period of time.

    Thanks a lot for sharing this very encouraging post.

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    • Hi Mi Muba

      I am humbled by your views on the post and glad to know that what I shared gave you a boost of confidence for happiness returning into your life.

      Hearing this from you, I too am optimistic and instantly motivated to do more and become more so that value is continually added to all of us as we continue to share with each other.

      Staying positive and maintaining the right thoughts are definitely keys for empowerment in our daily lives. The power is within us to choose happiness and to light that candle so that it shines bright within and without.

      Have a great day!

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  5. Hi Ivonne,
    Great post! I agree completely that happiness is a choice. Often, people forget that they have a choice to be happy in the moment and pursue external stuff to make themselves happy as you mention.

    People sometimes do not want to know that happiness begins with us, it begins by taking responsible for our happiness and not outsourcing it. So I agree 110% with the ideas that you provided: Self-love, faith, belief and worth all add up to what psychologists call self-efficacy.

    When we have a solid sense of self and worth, life appears more happy, we feel more contended. This is the same idea that the famous positive psychology professor Martin Seligman mentions about happiness: To thrive and to accomplish well being, we need PERMA or Positive emotion, engagement, positive relationships, meaning and accomplishment.

    Thanks for a wonderful post!
    Harish

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    • Hi Harish

      Thanks for your kind words. Happiness must begin with the individual and the primary source of it must be from within. When it is sought for from external stuff or from others, it begin to create what is referred to as co-dependence which can begin to influence a person’s emotions and I am certain you will agree, not always in a positive way.

      What do I mean? Let’s assume the individual from whom that happiness is sought is not in a good mood on a particular day, the likelihood of experiencing joy and happiness from him/her is slim to none.

      Happiness requires that each one take ownership of it and generate it for ourselves. That’s how we can get the sense of worth. I love the acronym PERMA and happy to gain the wisdom of professor Martin Seligman.

      Thanks for sharing. Have a great day! 🙂

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  6. Hi Ma’am Yvonne,
    The desire of every person is to be happy, what else do we need if not happiness?

    A person is happy when his needs are met, therefore being happy isn’t just about feeling pleased emotionaly, it’s also having all you need.

    It’s almost impossible to get all you need right? But the scroptural backup you gave in this article has covered it all.

    Nice tips (secrets) to bringing happiness into ones life.

    Thanks for sharing..

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    • Hey Larry

      Good to see you again. Glad you liked the tips. There is truth that happiness extends beyond being having our emotional needs met. It is also having all the physical needs met as well. But I think we stand a far better chance at having the former of the two met in full most of the times since it is a state of mind / thinking and we do have power and control over that aspect.

      Thanks for your contribution. Make it a great day! 🙂

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  7. Hi Yvonne

    I came upon the post though the AHA Community

    You are right about the issue of happiness and this is an inspiring post. Happiness is not gotten from outside but from within. People might not be successful in making you happy, drugs and alcohol will definitely not give you happiness but only You can give yourself happiness through Christ that is in you. Thanks for sharing.

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    • Hi Ikechi

      So good to see you again and it is encouraging to know that you were inspired by what was said in the article. The general consensus is that happiness is a choice, it’s a decision each one have to make and it originates from within and not from external sources. Christ is the hope of glory and He is the source of everything that mankind will ever have need of. It’s just a matter of looking to Him.

      Thanks for such a value added comment. Have a great day! 🙂

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  8. This post is great ammo. I definitely believe that happiness is a decision and a mindset (although I didn’t always) and one, often, that needs to be worked on. It’s certainly something I’m seeking to cultivate in my own approach to life so thanks for this post. It is, as I say, really great ammunition.

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    • Hi MIcah

      Welcome to my blog. Sometimes all it takes is for someone to explain things in a different way to the way we already know it, and then that sounds a bell and we realize but wait, that is something already being worked on.

      I could recall times gone that I didn’t always have the right mindset and had to do a lot of work on my attitude and the way that I approached life. I often looked to other people to bring me happiness but soon realized the power was within me to generate happiness myself. So definitely you are on the right path. Have a great day/week.

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  9. Hi Yvonne,
    great post!

    Landed here from Aha-Now blog community.

    I love the energy and positivity here at your blog.
    Congratulations!

    I think that loving yourself, is the first step to find happiness.
    After this, you’ll be able to love others!

    I believe, then, that doing what you like, is a surefire way to be happy.

    Thanks for sharing, Yvonne.
    Have a great week! 🙂

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    • Hi Erik

      Good to see you here and it’s my pleasure to welcome you to EMB. Thanks for taking the time to come by and for your kind words.

      You’ve struck the nail on it’s head there by saying that loving yourself is the first step to happiness. I have proved that the energy that generates from the inside is relative to my happiness. Likewise fulfilling my purpose in life.

      Thanks for your participation in the discussion. Have a great day and make it a fantastic week.

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    • What I find so interesting is you could never find this anywhere else.

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  10. Hi Yvonne,

    Lovely post on how we can bring happiness back into our lives 🙂

    Happiness for me is a state of mind. You can be as happy as you want and when you want. Your tips are apt – and I think when you love yourself and know who you are, you can love and do a lot for others, and that brings immense happiness, doesn’t it? Living a life on purpose and doing things for others is what I believe brings me utmost happiness, though I always wish I could do a lot more. I guess with time, one can, isn’t it?

    I loved the slideshare in the end – great going! Something new on your blog – I still need to get started with those. 🙂

    Thanks for sharing. Have a nice weekend 🙂

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    • Hi Harleena,

      Good to see you. I know there is a lot going on your way with work, ABC forum and everything else. SO I really appreciate you taking the time to stop by and comment. Thank you for validating the post as well.

      Happiness will mean different things to different people and where it gets personal is when the individual defines it for him/her self and how they go about achieving it. Just like you mentioned that for you it is a state of mind, I believe it is also about knowing and living on purpose, setting goals, and establishing values that will result in a positive outcome being happiness.

      I’ve come to know you being the person who just love to help others and wished that you could do more. It is one of the things that I observed when we first met. It has become your trademark. It is your God-given gift and you are anointed to do all that you are doing. With time, you will get the expansion to do more. Increase is on it’s way! 🙂

      I am glad you love the slide share – it’s a new addition to the site yea. It is time consuming putting it together though. But nothing good worth working for will be easy. I encourage you to go for it – just another way to expand your ‘wings’ and soar like the eagle. 🙂 Have a great weekend.

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  11. Hi Yvonne,

    That was a pretty helpful post, happiness is the first step. And I should say the greatest success of life is living a happy life.

    Your post, clearly describes how to be happy and how to turn your bad day into cheerful ones 😀

    Thank you for sharing it, learned new things too.

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    • Hi Vishnu

      Welcome back my friend. I am glad that you found the article beneficial and applicable when looking to brighten up your day. In life there are many lessons that we learn and grow from. Just thankful that what was shared was a learning experience for you.

      Have a blessed day and enjoy what’s left of the weekend.

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  12. You touched on some key points here Yvonne. Happiness is definitely a decision that most people fail to realize. They allow their circumstances to dominate their thoughts and feelings. One of the benefits of following God’s will is He teaches His children how to respond to life and to not trust their feeling because they are always changing.

    Another benefit is He teaches His children how to love themselves. That’s why it’s important to have a personal relationship with God because happiness is found in Him so within ourselves.

    Matter of fact, every point you made is found within. Happiness is an inside job.

    Thanks for the reminder.

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    • Excellent points Vernon! There is no problem or situation that we will face while here on earth that we don’t already have the answer or solution to in the bible. It is all there, it is just a matter of knowing what it is and putting it into action.

      I have always said that a man/woman’s love for each other as in intimate relationship, our love for friends, family members, neighbor and even our enemies can only be taught and known through our relationship with God.

      “Happiness is an inside job.” I love the way you brought that point out to show that each one is responsible for his or her happiness. I could not have said it better.

      Thanks for your valuable input. Have a great day.

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  13. Being happy is most certainly a decision.

    I definitely think each person should define happiness for themselves before going out and searching for it. If you don’t you’ll end up doing all these things that would seemingly make you happy but actually have not. Sometimes what you want isn’t the same as another person. So you shouldn’t think that because it made another person happy that it will be just as pleasing to you.

    ~Lea

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    • Oh certainly Lea, solid points! I think too that in establishing what that happiness is, boundaries may also need to be set. A lot of times people look to someone else or to a particular event or something of that sort and then get disappointed because just as you said it was not pleasing. Happiness comes in different stages and is not always instantaneous.

      Have a blessed weekend. 🙂

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