Ways In Which Honest Self-Reflection Can Inspire and Motivate You

How often do you engage in honest self-reflection? Are you one of those persons who do it only at the start of a new year and then make those hard to keep resolutions that fall by the wayside come February?

When you get up in mornings, do you feel inspired, motivated, energized or do you feel fatigued?

Are you motivated to succeed or do you even have the courage to do real self-reflection?

Self-reflection requires honesty. It is about confronting the person on the inside of you when you are out of the spotlight, and you are the only one present at that meeting.

Self-reflection is a positive action, even though it can lead to a revelation of bad habits, unpleasant attitudes, and behavior.

It is a catalyst for motivation that will ultimately drive you to go above and beyond the ordinary right up to the point of excellence. It can help you realize your biggest goals and ambition.

So, are you ready to get motivated and be all that you can be this year? Let’s get started.

Motivation Begins With Self-Reflection

Every once in a while someone will treat you and me with the same bad attitude that we have given whether to that person or someone else along the way. Needless to say, it’s an unpleasant feeling for those of us that have received such treatment.

That has its roots in biblical truth that whatsoever a man sow, that shall he also reap. It is also saying that the good, we do to others, will come back for us. By by the same token, the bad things that we do or say to others will also come back to haunt us one day.motivation means action

1. Reflect on your attitude and your behavior in general while keeping in mind your values.

Sometimes this is all it takes to clear up the blocked channels as you see your reflection in the mirror.

You are motivated to love and to be more respectful, mindful and sensitive to the feelings of others.

What behaviors are holding you back? Even if you are having a bad day because something is not going the way you anticipated, manage your emotions, your behavior and your reaction to the negative things in life. If you don’t, then there will always be someone there to push your button in the wrong way.

“My philosophy is that not only are you responsible for your life, but doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.” ~ Oprah Winfrey

2. Consider your weaknesses and look for the opportunity to turn them into strengths

To each his own but universally, everyone has weaknesses. Not all weaknesses are bad either.

However, the idea here is not to constantly magnify them, whether it’s yours or someone else’s. The thing is to know what they are, acknowledge that you have them and seek help from a trusted source.

Do you have a weakness for alcohol? Then remove from the home and stay away from the bar or wherever there is alcohol. Do you have a weakness for beautiful women or sex? Are you constantly late for work?

It’s a beautiful thing when you can work on those gray areas, make a few changes here and there and then you begin to see results that are worth celebrating.

“I don’t believe you have to be better than everybody else. I believe you have to be better than you ever thought you could be.” ~ Ken Venturi

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3. You cannot always be right nor are you always wrong 

Some persons are negative and constantly sabotage themselves by thinking he or she is always wrong and cannot do anything good. You will then hear that person say “I just have bad luck.”

On the other hand, there are those who constantly think that no matter what they do, they are always right. Wrong! It is called self-deception not self-motivation. Being cocky and manipulative is not smart either.

Consider the possibility that you are wrong, and be willing to listen to others and to take their ideas and suggestions.

For those of you, who think you are always wrong, explore the possibility that you are right. You are above average. You are smart and intelligent so go ahead and give yourself the opportunity to grow intellectually rather than giving into doubts and fears.

“Believe it can be done. When you believe something can be done, really believe, your mind will find ways to do it. Believing a solution paves the way to solution.” ~ David J. Schwartz

4. Give a listening ear to your frustrations

What frustrates you? Are they recurring and the fact that they keep resurfacing, what do they say about you?

Do you constantly get on the defensive and blame others? Do you react strongly to minor disagreements or take offense whenever someone has to correct you?

According to Bob Proctor, “Change is inevitable but personal growth is a choice.”

Therefore, it is time to take responsibility for your actions and give yourself the opportunity to grow and to become the person you were created to be.

“You can make positive deposits in your own economy every day by reading and listening to powerful, positive, life-changing content and by associating with encouraging and hope building people.” ~ Zig Ziglar 


5. Even if you fail at something, you are not a failure

It is not all bad, and all is not lost if you made the effort to do something and your plans failed. That doesn’t make you the person a failure. It’s an opportunity to redefine your personal goals, and to realign yourself with them.

It is important that your goals are sensible, measurable, achievable, and realistic and time bound. Have a vision for your life and know what your capabilities are.

Don’t play the victim or bury your head in the sand like the ostrich. Why are you refusing to let go of the past? It is not your mother’s fault. It is not your father’s fault either.

Release the pain and get up and do something for a change. Take action.

“People who consider themselves victims of their circumstances will always remain victims unless they develop a greater vision for their lives.” ~ Stedman Graham 

Motivational Phrases To Live By Each Day

Someone said that you cannot motivate another person and that motivation has to come from within yourself. Be that as it may, here are a few motivational phrases and affirmations that you can declare each day that will not only motivate, but will cause you to succeed:-

  1. I am grateful for today, and I am determined to cherish every moment.
  2. I am thankful to be here and will make the best of today
  3. I choose to move forward, grow and improve daily in my life.
  4. I have the favor with God and people and I am, therefore, destined to win.
  5. I am a better person today than I was yesterday.
  6. I refuse to give way to doubt, confusion or frustration.
  7. I choose to focus on my personal goals and where I am going in life
  8. I am not a failure, and I am a work in progress and success shall be my outcome
  9. I was born a winner and today I plan to win, prepare to win, and I expect to win
  10. Today I choose to give love and push through my hurt and pain.
  11. I am 100% committed to my goals and positive habits
  12. I am not a victim of my circumstances, and I am a victor.
  13. The possibilities in my life are endless, and I am excited about them.affirming victory
  14. My life matters and what I do makes a difference so that the world is a better place
  15. My life has meaning and purpose
  16. I refuse to compare myself with others
  17. I am in competition with no one else but me
  18. I will not look back in the past because there are far better things ahead for me
  19. Time and patience are my strongest warriors in battle
  20. The battle is not mine, but it is the Lord’s, and He shall fight for me
  21. I have the power to change and live life in abundance
  22. I am the apple of God’s eyes, and I am royalty
  23. Be quick to listen, and slow to speak.
  24. Don’t let life change your goals, because achieving your goals can change your life.
  25. God did not create me to be comfortable but to use my talents to be of comfort to others
  26. My smile is infectious, and I vow to use it to make a difference in the lives of those around me
  27. I refuse to live in misery because I have gratitude as my antidote
  28. Don’t worry, be happy and live your greatest life

Final Thoughts 

For a final thought, I leave you with this quote from Confucius that says,

“The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential…These are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.”

Over To You

Was this post helpful? Did it inspire you to live a more rewarding and fulfilling life? What are some of your own affirmations that you use each day to motivate you to succeed? Share your thoughts with us.

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About Yvonne I. Wilson (793 Articles)
Yvonne I. Wilson is known for her prolific, dynamic leadership style with over twenty years in the healthcare industry. She is a trailblazer and a catalyst for change; a positive thinker and someone who is very passionate and optimistic about life. She is mantled as an end-time Apostolic Prophet with an extraordinary spirit of discernment, an exceptionally strong prophetic and healing anointing and a unique gift in prophetic intercessory prayer as she navigates through the realm of the spirit and as she ministers to the nations. With the Agape love of God and His undeniable purpose for which He has called her, God has given her a Prophetic Deliverance Ministry to bring deliverance to His people, to heal the wounded, rejected and emotionally scarred/broken in spirit, to break barriers, old paradigms and false teachings and to rebuild, establish and plant the things of God.

17 Comments on Ways In Which Honest Self-Reflection Can Inspire and Motivate You

  1. mukeshchaurasia // January 22, 2015 at 6:44 am //

    Hi friends,

    This is a great motivational post. Thoroughly liked it.
    Thanks for sharing and motivating!!!

  2. Hi Yvonne

    I am a fan of self reflection so this post appealed to me so much.

    I am in agreement with all that you have written. Self reflection is a choice and no one can make you grow unless you accept that you need changes in your life.

    I love the motivational quotes, including #12 and some of them I play in my mind all the time.

    Thanks for sharing a wonder post. Have a wonderful week.

    • Hi Ikechi,

      Great point that self reflection is a choice. The willingness to do it, and to learn and grow from must come from within and a personal desire to change.

      Those that are both willing and able will seek the help that they need and will get the assistance of others. The ones who are unwilling and unable, sadly will get left behind and having identified them all we can do is cut them out of our lives.

      Glad that you loved the motivational quotes and thw affirmations.

      Have a blessed day/week.

  3. Hi Yvone Mam,
    Exceptional post Mam.
    Very motivating.
    Motivation is needed for any task to be completed successfully. I also have written a post on this same topic.
    Anyway spot-on points you shared.
    Inferiority complex and superiority complex are the two common at the same time contrasting characters in man’s mind. Both of them are not good.
    Looking forward for more from you.

    • Hi Rahul

      Welcome to my blog and I am happy that you took the time to join us and to share your thoughts.

      I am glad that you found the post motivating. It is good when minds think alike and we can encourage and build each other up.

      Be encouraged to live out your dream. You have a purpose and you were created and born into this world for such a time as this. Blessings and have a super productive and fun week ahead. Cheers! 🙂

  4. Hey Yvonne,

    WWooOW … Amazing inspiring and motivational post…
    Yeah I do agree with you Consider your weaknesses is one of the most essential thing to do great and overcome on these weakness and look for the opportunity to turn them into strengths.

    Yes, None of will always right sometime you need passions to hear about your lacking in any of the stage of life. yOu need to improve it.

    Thanks for sharing!

    • Hi Mustafa

      So great to have you stop by my blog. I am happy to hear that it inspired and motivated you. The passion that it has ignited in you , may the light shine bright and may you grow in strength and stature.

      It is never about one’s weaknesses but the action that we take each time to turn them into strengths.

      Thanks for your participation. Have a blessed week.

  5. Hi Yvonne,

    Not only do I think self reflections is necessary, I think it is something we should consistently do. As you mentioned, it may bring to light some bad habits but what better way to evolve as people than to self-reflect!

    I love how Zig Zigler put it! It is up to us to make the effort to be positive and stay and a part of that is by associating with positive people. We may sometimes have to remove people that are not positive out of our lives unfortunately.

    I love affirmations and you started off with something that is near to my hear and that is being grateful. I think if we remain grateful for all we are blessed with and attempt to move forward in a positive keeping God and others first, we will find the courage and strength to make the necessary changes in our lives.

    Thanks for sharing such a powerful post that I surely will take with me from this point on in my own life.

    • Hey Nate

      You rocked with this comment. I could not have said it any better.

      We become what we eat but more so who we keep company with and what goes into our hearing. That is why it is good to surround ourselves with positive people, and people who will also hold us accountable for our actions and also what comes out of our mouth. Negative people as you mentioned we just have to let them go.

      Also some persons are fearful of what they will discover about themselves, that’s why there is a hesitation on their part to do self reflection. I have been at that place that once the word of God began to show me who I was, I was scared but gradually with grace and humility I acknowledged my weaknesses and shortcomings and asked the Lord to help me. Now I am not perfect just better than I was back then.

      Gratitude and everything about it I love. It’s at thw top of my daily affirmations.

      God bless you and have a great week. 🙂

  6. Hi Yvonne,

    I love this one, “Even if you fail at something, you are not a failure.” It’s a great reminder that a single setback doesn’t define you as a person. Just because you messed up at something doesn’t mean you can’t do something else well, or even that same thing eventually.

    #11 is good. I actually may start using that to remind myself of what I need to do and prepare my day.


    • Hi Lea,

      You are so right that a single set back do not define a person. So often this is the place people find themselves stuck in…there was some set back or disappointment and that person just can’t seem to get over it. Then they keep hanging on to the past and have a what if pity party rather than letting go.

      Please feel free to download and print these affirmations. Great reminders each day. Thanks for your participation. Have a blessed week ahead.

  7. Hi Yvonne,

    Now Self- reflection is what I do! 😀

    Most of us don’t like to look at ourselves because of the fear of what we may find. That’s why #1 is so important. Not only should we reflect on our attitudes and behaviors but also out thoughts.

    In Psalm 139:23-24 it says “Search me O God and know my heart: test my thoughts.”

    When we evaluate ourselves it’s important that we ask God to join us if not, we may find something that may cause us to feel bad or guilty and that’s not the purpose of Self reflecting. The purpose is to see ourselves as a whole. Just like the way God sees us.

    Honest is the key that opens our closed mind. Although it’s called self reflection we must have someone to share with what we found because we are experts at self deception. Also when people self reflect they mostly find the bad in themselves. Having someone who they trust can point out their accesses as well.

    Great post!

    • Hi Vernon,

      Great input! You have given even more credibility to the post and you have measured it against the word of God through that psalm.

      As children of God, every now and then we must ask him to turn his spotlight into the deep corners of our heart. The areas that have those things hidden that requires some deep cleaning to get them removed. At the risk of not feeling ashamed or guilty we need to know what his word says about us.

      I agree too that we need someone to share with what we discovered. True we are masters of self deception and leave it up to mankind we believe we are good and there is nothing in us that need to change or if some bad attitude is found out people generally tend to shrug it off by saying that is just the way I am.

      But we are our brother’s keeper and we can help someone to change as long as we correct that person in love. Blessings and have a wonderful weekend.

  8. Hi Yvonne!

    Yes it is good to stop from time to time to evaluate ourselves. And to be honest with ourselves can be both, helpful and painful. I think it is important to know our weaknesses but to focus on our talents and strengths. This can give so much confidence and freedom that it even helps to overcome some of your weaknesses.

    No. 13 is my favorite:
    The possibilities in my life are endless, and I am excited about them.

    Thank you for sharing 🙂

    • Hi llka

      You made a very important point in directing our focus on our talents and our strengths. These I am sure far outweighs our weaknesses. Eventually we are so much stronger than we could have imagined ourselves to be.

      Great input. Thanks for stopping by. Have a great weekend. 🙂

  9. #17 is my favourite….. ” I am in competition with no one else but myself.” Every day we should aim at being a better person than we were the day before. This will allow us to grow into our full potential and into the person God has created us to be. Secondly, if we do what we were created to do and not what another person was created to do we will not have any reason to compete with others. I realise that there is only one person like me, so I am an original and will not ever want to be somebody else’s counterfeit. Great post!

    • Hi Pastor Ava,

      Great to hear your thoughts on this post. One of my plans this year is to aim for the best and to be a better person than I was the day or week before. I see it as an ongoing process. Of course everything will not be perfect but one day at a time lasting changes will come about.

      God bless you. Have a great weekend. 🙂

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