3 Simple, Powerful Ways to Find Peace Within Yourself

In their book, Love is a Choice, Christian psychologists Hemfelt, Minirth and Meier describe the tragic life of Emilia Wesley, sister of her famous brothers, John and Charles, founders of Methodism.

Their mother, Susanna, bore nineteen children. Emilia was the oldest. Smart and pretty, she put her own life on hold for years to help her physically weak mother carry the load of housework and caring for the younger children. The family lived at poverty’s door.

Emilia developed survival skills, hiding her spinster loneliness in adulthood by successfully developing her own school for girls. At the age of 44 she met Robert Harper who sought her hand in marriage. She didn’t really love him, but he was attractive. Perhaps concerned that this might be her last chance for marriage and desperately desiring to be taken care of by another, she married.

What she didn’t know was that Robert wanted to marry a successful woman so he could quit working. When their baby arrived, he took Emilia’s savings, leaving her with his debts. The sickly baby died.

The tragedy in her life stemmed from parents who did not pay attention to their own daughter’s emotional and developmental needs. Starved for love, she reached out for nurturing from a man she did not know was incapable or unwilling to give her the tender care she sought.

It often happens that way: The undernourished person in childhood repeats in her adult life the calamity of neglect by unwittingly duplicating the dysfunction of the family in which she grew up.

How about you? Is there any hoe that things can be different for you, even if your circumstances aren’t the same as Emilia’s?

I find these 15 psalms of ascent a guide for getting on top. They’re designed to move you out of life’s valleys and strengthen you on the climb.

At Psalm 131, we’re near the end of the long trek upward. What spiritual and emotional muscles has the Holy Spirit been developing as you’ve fought to recover from the distress (Psalm 120:1) which prompted you to begin the ascent toward recovery? This psalm tells us there are three.

serenity prayer

1. I know my limits and it’s okay

Can you accept that you are never going to have some things in life you want?

I have a joyful friend confined to a wheelchair because of an auto accident. She doesn’t waste her life by grousing on the what-might-have-beens.

One of the hardest and most necessary things we must do sometimes is let go. What are fiercely holding on to? You say, “I’m holding on because I have faith.” Are you sure it’s faith, or is it fear? Fear that if you release your grasp, nothing will be left?

The Psalmist, in verse 1, has arrived at the place of inner release. He’s no longer holding on to unrealistic expectations about his life. He’s replaced the “What if?” with the “What now?” He’s not focused on what he can’t control, but the things he can.

Almost every day, I repeat this famous prayer: “Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

2. Weaning does not mean starving

It’s hard to be cut off from a familiar and predictable source of nourishment.

The first moments of weaning are frightful. You are used to only one means of ingesting. Now what is familiar has been removed. You’re hungry for the way things were. You think you’ll die.

But God has other food for you. Just like a baby may resist at first the healthy solid foods fed in mashed spoonfuls, so you may resist the alternative resources God has provided. He sees how upset you are. But in time you will again be calm enough to say, “Like a weaned child is my soul within me.” (v.2)

2. Help for me means hope for someone else

The brief psalm ends by giving encouragement to others.

It’s hard to shout the victory when you are in the process of recovering from loss, codependency, addiction or any form of attachment you looked to as a source of support.

But after the weaning, winnowing, weeding or widowing, you’ll have a testimony which will help others. You’ll put your arms around a soul just as frightened now as you were then and say with confidence, “Put your hope in the Lord.”


George Wood

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Yvonne I. Wilson is known for her prolific, dynamic leadership style with over twenty years in the healthcare industry. She is a trailblazer and a catalyst for change; a positive thinker and someone who is very passionate and optimistic about life. She is mantled as an end-time Apostolic Prophet with an extraordinary spirit of discernment, an exceptionally strong prophetic and healing anointing and a unique gift in prophetic intercessory prayer as she navigates through the realm of the spirit and as she ministers to the nations. With the Agape love of God and His undeniable purpose for which He has called her, God has given her a Prophetic Deliverance Ministry to bring deliverance to His people, to heal the wounded, rejected and emotionally scarred/broken in spirit, to break barriers, old paradigms and false teachings and to rebuild, establish and plant the things of God.

6 Comments on 3 Simple, Powerful Ways to Find Peace Within Yourself

  1. prophetmarquez // June 20, 2015 at 9:10 pm //

    Great blog, I appreciate how you share your heart.

    • Hi Prophet Marquez

      Welcome to my blog and I am so glad you took the time to pay a visit and to share your thoughts..

      Thanks for the encouragement. God bless you! 🙂

  2. Nothing more nothing less to say.. “Awesome” ❤

    • Hi Sneha

      Welcome to my blog…I am very appreciative of you stopping by and to know that you were blessed by this post.

      Do come again and have a blessed week ahead!

  3. Hi Yvonne,

    This story is a perfect example of why we need be present emotionally and spiritually in our children lives. The mistakes of parents are often passed on to their children in one form or another.

    No child was ever set out to become addicted to something or someone. They usually are seeking something else; escape from pain or something to make up for their losses or brokenness. Their needs are legitimate.

    I’m a big fan of the Serenity Prayer and as I grow in Christ certain parts of it stands out to me. The first thing I had to recognize is that God gives us serenity and it’s not something that we can get on our own without His grace.

    Secondly the wisdom to know the difference is another He had to teach me. Not my wisdom but His wisdom. His wisdom leads to great benefits in life.

    Happy is the person who finds wisdom and gains understanding. (Proverbs 3:13)

    All we want is a more fulfilled and secured happy life.

    Have a blessed day!

    • Hi Vernon

      Your comment is so well appreciated and enlightening. The post itself was so timely for me as I was reminded recently of how much our children really need us by a situation that I was confronted with.

      Having to be there not just a Mother but as a Counselor, Guide, Teacher, and Instructor. It’s been a while since I felt the pain of my own flesh and blood and cried out to God for His divine intervention. Just like us the adults, it’s our desire I am sure for us to see our children healed and delivered and be made whole in every area [mind, body, soul and spirit] And like you said none of our children set out to be addicts, whether to something or to someone.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. Value added for sure. Have a blessed day/weekend!

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