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How To Regain Focus When Life Throws A Curveball

Have you ever had this phrase “be of good courage” spoken to you while in the middle of one of your most difficult moments in life? Were you really encouraged or you just wanted  to tell the person to be quiet and leave you alone?

A good guess is your first natural reactions when life throws a curveball at you or someone did something bad to you were that you felt hurt, angry, you cried, you wanted to fight back or perhaps you even thought of a way you could get revenge against the person who caused you emotional pain and discomfort.

If you be honest with yourself, it’s seldom a case where your first response was to “turn the other cheek” (Matthew 5:39) which is also known as “to refrain from retaliating when one has been attacked, insulted or injured [emotionally, spiritually, etc] by another.”

It’s hardly an occasion where your initial counter action was to just forgive the other person (Matthew 6:14-15) and then move on.

Short of forgiving and moving though is that when you choose to nurture hurt and anger, not only do you lose focus and are pushed deeper into the valley of painful suffering but the result is that it interferes with your relationship with God.

A True Story

A couple months ago Shelley learned through a friend that while in attendance at a meeting, a particular individual cast accusations of wrongdoing towards her. Shelley thanked the person for making her aware of what was said about her but knowing within her heart that what she was accused of was not the truth, she made no ‘fuss’ but simply went about her business and continued to perform her duties.

Time passed and then a few days ago, the matter came up again but this time during an evaluation session with her boss. Shelley’s story has a hint of sadness to it in that while no one bothered to address the matter in real time when it happened it was now being used against her in her performance evaluation meeting.

By all account no one bothered to investigate the matter and to hear her account but they simply went on and accepted one side of the story. To have the matter brought up now months later as a complaint against her in her PE session not only conveyed feelings of anger and frustration, but opened the wound again to the point of tears, sadness and heaviness in her heart.

The question then is, how does Shelley avoid losing her focus or what do you do to regain your focus after a curveball is thrown at you?

How To Regain Focus When Life Throws A Curveball At You

Steps To Regain Focus When Life Throws A Curveball

A good place to start is to remind yourself of what Jesus said in John 16:33 KJV, “These things I have spoken unto you, that in me you might have [perfect] peace. In the world you shall have tribulation: [distress and suffering], but be of good cheer; [be courageous, be confident, be undaunted, be filled with joy]; I have overcome the world.” 

That is the promise that none of us will escape situations or circumstances in this world that would not bring the sour grapes of pain, distress, suffering to the point where we cry many tears.

1.) Acknowledge how you currently feel about the situation

Once you acknowledge your feelings [and this works best when you are truly honest about your deep inner feelings and not necessarily the pleasant, conciliatory or diplomatic version], you can then move on to the next step.

Prayer:

Heavenly Father, I thank you for this reminder in your word of the dangers that I am likely to face in life. I acknowledge that I have absolutely no control over the circumstances or situations that comes my way but that I have the blessed assurance of your protection and peace that I have in you with the passing of each new day. I confidently stand on your word that you have overcome the world and when I put my trust, faith and confidence in you that I too will overcome. Amen.

2.) Allow yourself to be conscience-stricken about your action and your attitude

This is a very critical step and often times it is the one that is overlooked. Clearly, if your attitude is wrong in your response to a curveball or an unpleasant situation in life such as when someone did you a disservice, repentance is a must.

Unconfessed sin is what separates a person from God and where there is separation from God, spiritual death will ensue.

Prayer:

Lord I repent of the error of my ways of not trusting in you and allowing myself to harbor anger and thoughts of revenge and retaliation in my heart towards the person/s [call person/s by name] who have done me wrong. I now receive your blessing of perfect peace, the joy of your salvation and happiness in my heart in Jesus’ name, amen

3.) Commit yourself to forgiving [yourself and others]

In his book Forgiveness Is Power, William Fergus Martin wrote “Forgiveness is freeing ourselves from wanting to punish.” He further emphasized that “We experience what we intend for others.” [when we fail to exercise forgiveness]

It is more beneficial to your personal growth and development when you forgive yourself and others than it is to hold on to the wounds in areas of your life. Just think about the wisdom you gain from the unpleasant experiences in life when your attitude is one that is quick to forgive.

How To Regain Your Focus When Life Throws A Curveball

Prayer:

Dear God, I willingly commit my selfish ways of carrying unforgiveness in my heart against myself and others [call person’s name/s] I acknowledge that forgiveness is your will for me and that when I forgive I allow your blessings to flow unhindered into my life and as such the feeling of heaviness leaves and my heart will feel lighter. I will be happier, more at ease, and confident. I now accept your peace and freedom that forgiveness brings in Jesus’ name, amen.

Conclusion

Life is no bed of roses and some things are unavoidable in life. Inevitably, you and I will have tribulations of varying degree as we journey through life. The key however is not to give up but to understand that you have the power in your hands to overcome whatever tests or trials you encounter. The steps and the prayers here are guidelines which you can repeat as often or as seldom when life throws you a curveball.

Your Turn to Talk It Over

Let’s hear your thoughts in the comment section below this post: –

  1. Was this post helpful? If yes, in what way?
  2. What is your response normally when you get hit with a curveball in life?
  3. What other steps would you like to see added to this list?
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About Yvonne I. Wilson (774 Articles)
Yvonne is a positive thinker, a catalyst for change, and a conduit through which holistic healing takes place and destiny is fulfilled. Her ministry through her blog, Empowerment Moments, came at a very low point in her life and was born out of much adversity, persecution, physical abuses, and rejection to the point of her being suicidal. She was left feeling defeated and shrunk back by fear. But through some miraculous means, God has given her pain purpose and a unique voice through which He speaks to touch the untouchable, to reach the unreachable and to empower, inspire, motivate, encourage and uplift the hurting and spiritually wounded to bring about healing and wholeness - mind, body, soul and spirit, one person at a time.

10 Comments on How To Regain Focus When Life Throws A Curveball

  1. Hi Mrs Yvonne,
    I stumble on came across your page and I thank God that I have I’ve been feeling so lost and empty lately and I know that I haven’t been spending as much time with God as I used to so I feel like Peter when he had all his Focus was on the card at the time and when he lost Focus he beginning of fall and I’ve been trying to gain back focus and I have lost the focus of repent it and it just seem to can’t forgive myself or get back to where I was. No I’m at a time where I need to hurry up and find it apartment or home and I just don’t have that confident in myself I don’t I love God with all my heart I’m just so confused and I know God is nothing of confusion help pray for me.

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    • Hello Kwanza

      Welcome to my blog and for sharing your story with us. I pray that God gives you the grace that will enable you to forgive and release yourself to be free once again in your hear and mind to advance in the things of God. not forgiving yourself will hold you back. The steps of a righteous man are ordered by God.

      I pray God’s guidance, your strength and courage to believe God once again to do exceeding abundantly in your life. He is a covenant keeping God and he who begun that good work in you is faithful to complete it through Christ Jesus and to give you an expected outcome of abundant life, blessings and favor.

      Have a great day. Do visit again.

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  2. Hello, Yvonne!

    Frankly speaking, I get derailed so easily and it becomes so hard for me to re-align …

    But this post has something to offer me to go through in such situations. And yes, prayers is the biggest weapon to deal with any kind of negative time one is going through.

    Thank you! And have an awesome Sunday!

    See me often!

    ~ Adeel

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    • Hi Adeel

      So good to see you once again and making such a positive contribution. I am glad you found the post helpful too.

      I can empathise with you on those occasions, though I’m not easily derailed, some situations I do have a hard time to get myself back together and move on. It’s something I’m still working on and will get better with time that I am able to quickly follow all the steps easily. 🙂

      Prayer is powerful and can do great things working to our advantage each and every time. Take care. Have a great week ahead, Blessings!

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  3. Hi Yvonne,

    Good to be over at your blog after my blogging break, and to read through your wonderful words of wisdom 🙂

    Yes indeed, it’s not easy to regain focus when life throws a curveball at you, and it happens many times I’d say. As you mentioned, the only way that works is to acknowledge your feelings about the situation and accept things, taking it as a will from the almighty. Learning to forgive is essential, as that’s the only way you can move ahead, isn’t it? Love the little prayers you’ve added along as well.

    Thanks for sharing. Have a nice week ahead 🙂

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    • Hello Harleena,

      I am delighted to see you. You were missed and just glad that you are back in full swing again after your break. I pray things work well in your favor.

      I believe things take a little longer to turn around and people stay longer than necessary in the valley of despair when there is failure to acknowledge the different types of emotions that come as a result of unfavorable situations. It is also important to learn to accept what is and let go of the past in order to fully embrace and step into the new season of life.

      But indeed forgiveness is key – when we forgive and put things behind us, hearts open to love again and blessings begin to flow. What makes us strongest is not the absence of adversity but the presence of some of the most grievous hurts, disappointments, trials and testings in life. These are the stepping stones that build bridges for us to cross over into our purpose and destiny.

      Have a great day/rest of the week. 🙂

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  4. Hi Yvonne,

    Typically when I get hit with a curveball I allow myself to react to it however it is. Before I used to bottle it up but that never helped. Once I’ve vented I try to get to work, fix it and try to get things back to normal.

    ~Lea

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    • Hi Lea

      I’m excited to see you! So glad you made it. 🙂 Your participation in this discussion is much appreciated.

      I’m with you that when I get those curveballs I allow myself to get the emotions out regardless of what they are. I mean there are occasions that I bottle up but then there are those times when I just have to let it out. Give me a day or so to get myself back together and get my strategic thinking cap on again.

      Have a great week. Cheers! 🙂

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  5. Hi, Yvonne
    Even after walking in the “light”, forgiveness is the hardest act to follow. But it is so important that if we don’t forgive other, God will give us to the torture of Devil – illness i.e. God will not forgiveness to us.

    Glad that you give us how to pray in each step in forgiveness.I gave you high- five for reinforce us to realize the first step of forgiveness that we need to accept the event that hurt us and we feel angry before seeking from God’s direction.

    Thanks for the post.

    Stella Chiu

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    • Hi Stella,

      Thank you for stopping by. As always your presence and your comment/feedback is much appreciated.

      I too can identify with your point that the forgiveness principle even though it is hard to follow is important to do so. Many people have sickness and diseases and can’t find the cause but yes, illness can come as a result of unforgiveness. The act of forgiveness us not so much for the other person but for us and that is so because God waits on us to do our part so that He can forgive us of our sins and take them from our record.

      Have a wonderful week ahead. God bless you.

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